This time of day is my favorite. My wife, Nicholas, and Patches are safely in bed, just a few feet away. I’m setting in my chair, with my wolf blanket, on my iPad, with the tv in the background. This is one of my favorite times, not because they are asleep, but because they are near, and I’m spending a little down time.
Down time is wonderful, as long as it doesn’t take away from the needs of the family. Everyone needs a few minutes, but I feel better knowing they are taken care of first. When you love others, you seek, as much as possible, for we all slip at this, to put those you love first. It’s the way things should be.
Are you having trouble with someone in your life? Maybe it’s a loved one, maybe it’s an acquaintance, maybe it’s a coworker. Can I make a suggestion to you? You’ve tried things, and they haven’t worked. Why not try something counterintuitive?
Seek to do something for them, without any benefit to yourself. Plan something they would like, not for your gain, but for their pleasure. You will be surprised at the results, even if they’re not exactly what you expect.
This doesn’t mean that the two of you will become the best of friends. It does mean that you will be carrying out an unselfish act. Doing something for others, always blesses you, because it changes your mindset. It causes you to open your eyes to the needs of others.
When it’s someone you have had issues with, it can also open your eyes to their pain. If you see their pain, you may see why they react to you the way they have. It may have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with their sorrow. If so, at the very least, you’ve brought a little joy to a pain filled life.
It may remind them, someone cares for them. Someone is out for more than what’s in it for them. It can restore their faith, encourage their hearts, and give them hope for a better day. I believe it is our duty to share joy in this world, wherever we can.
It may, or may not benefit you in the end. It may restore a relationship, it may make a friend. I don’t know. I don’t know the pain, the problem, or the people involved. I do know, a kind and selfless act brings some light into every life, and everyone of us needs that. At the end of the day, if nothing else, you can look back, and smile, that you made someone else smile, lifting at least the wait of a frown off their shoulders for a moment or two.